Proverbs 31 Woman

I have been reading lots and lots on other blogs about the Proverbs 31 woman. But did I take the time to actually read the Bible verses? ummm noooo. I am so guilty of reading about the Bible, then actually reading the Bible.

Here is a passage about the Proverbs 31 woman, she is who I want to be. Someone I look up to, and aspire to. At times she seems too perfect.... but isn't that we are supposed to aspire to? To be like Jesus? Sure, we may not get there, but it doesn't mean we shouldn't try.

Proverbs 31:10-31 (King James Version)

10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Who Wears the Pants?

I am a huge fan of the Duggars and watching them has opened up so many questions for me! Recently I have been questioning modesty. I was not brought up in a Christian home but my parents did teach my sister and I bit about modesty. It was very different than what I am reading about on other Christian blogs or seeing on the Duggars.

To Wear the Pants or not to Wear the Pants.... that is the big question!

Deuteronomy 22:5:
“A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.”

This is a controversial verse! I feel like this applies to cross-dressing, or does it involve actual styles of clothing?

I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. (NIV, 1 Timothy 2:9-10)

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. (NIV, 1 Peter 3:2-5)

I was reading "How has modest, feminine attire changed me?" on isthismodest? and there was a paragraph that really stood out to me:

"I love that when I go to a store older people look at me with admiration and say how lovely my daughters and I look in our long dresses. I love it that men no longer gawk at me but instead respectfully open the door for me. I love that people assume I am a Christian because of my attire."

Wow! I would love for people to look at me with admiration and respect! And to have people assume you are Christian just by your clothes, I think that's wonderful!

I have had men 'gawk' at me in the past (and at the time that is what I was going for)... however, now that I am married and building my relationship with God... it makes me feel uncomfortable. The only man I want to please is my husband! And more importantly I want to please God! If my clothes are distracting people or causing them to think lustfully then I am sinning!

There are definitely women's pants that are feminine... like if you saw a man wearing them you would know. Butt women's pants are made to flatter certain features that don't need to be emphasised. For example when I look in the mirror I automatically check myself out to see how I look, and what I am used to doing is looking to see if I am HOT or NOT...... what would happen if when I look in the mirror I am looking to see if I am HOLY or NOT.

What would my Father think of what I am wearing? Would He say, you are beautiful my child?

It is a lot to think about, and something that I have never thought about before. I have always thought that short skirts are not modest, obviously, but I have never thought about pants. Butt be honest with yourself! When you see a picture of a woman wearing pants, especially tight pants or jeans (which is the style) what do you think? Or when you are buying pants, what do you look for? I know I look for whatever makes me look the best!

I am seriously considering making the switch to skirts and dresses. I actually feel much more feminine when I wear a long skirt then when I wear pants. The problem is I don't own many skirts! Hmmmmmm I think it's time to visit the thrift stores soon! I will let you know what I do, I am going to pray about it some more and talk to my husband (do a little research on the male mind).


I am starting to realise that I live each day for myself... every decision I make is based on what will make me happy. Lord help me to wake up each morning and ask the question "What does the Lord want me to do today" and then give me the courage and conviction to answer.

Love this top!


Some great websites for modest clothing ideas:

http://www.christa-taylor.com/

http://www.shadeclothing.com/

http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/group.pl?id=26

http://www.funkyfrum.com/default.htm?Click=7453

http://sakurarose.com/

Patience is a Virtue (And a constant battle!)

Patience: the ability to wait calmly for something to happen without complaining or giving up, the capacity for calmly enduring difficult situations (source: http://www.freedictionary.com/)

It's easy to say patience is a virtue, but I find that statement to be an understatement. I beileve that if someone is able to be completely patient then that is more "God-like" than just a plain old virtue.

It's in GOD'S HANDS!

I have been struggling lately to process that fact in my mind. I have to realise that no matter what I do to try and shape my life - the effort is futile.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." ~ Jeremiah 29:11

Notice how He doesn't say "For I don't know the plans you have for yourself but hopefully it will turn out ok".

If we are able to allow Him to direct our lives and go to Him when we are not sure what to do then everything is going to be just fine.

Good plan - sounds simple.

If only it were simple! If only we could call God on his mobile and ask him "So I don't know where my husband and I should settle down, can you just tell me what to do?"

I truly believe that God has a plan for us and if we are faithful then we will be able to follow through with that. I also believe that when we are not faithful and try to take things in our own hands we will faces challenges and be dissatisfied.

I long to hear God's voice and feel peaceful with decisions that I make and in order to do that I need to learn how to meditate. However when I try I find that my mind is still going a mile a minute. Along with many other things in my life that I am trying to improve (to be closer to God) this one will take some serious time and effort.

I want to start proposing some challenges each day, mostly for myself but also to challenge anyone reading this!

Challenge #1: Meditate and listen. Some good advice I recently found was that we shouldn't be setting a time each day to spend with God (penciling him in to OUR schedule) but throughout the day we should be meditating and spending time with God. (By the way I learnt this from the IBLP daily success emails, you should really sign up!) Another good practice would be to keep a journal and each day write down what you asked God about and if you feel you were given any direction.

A few thoughts

Here are few random questions and statements that have come to mind this week that I am still trying to find answers for:

1) You don't need to EARN God's love because he has already given you all his love

2) Who do you blame for the way you talk and act?

3) We tend to be selective of what sins are and are not. For example: Gossip in church, judgement of others. Is murder, stealing and adoltery not the same as these in His eyes?

4) Submitting to your husband does not happen when you are too full of pride.

5) We should not set aside time for God, we should be spending all our time with Him!